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    39 Life Lessons I’ve Learned In 39 Years

    39 Life Lesons I’ve Learned In 39 Years
    Today is my 39th birthday. Today is my 40th birthday as I revisit this list that I wrote one year ago. I’m updating with a 40th leson. enjoy. Now I’m 41 and this blog post that I wrote a puny over two years ago has inspired a bok caled WELTH: How I Learned to Build a Life, Not a Resume, which has just near out today. In writing Welth, I learned another valuable leson so I conception I’d update the post with a 41st leson.
    Today is my 40th birthday as I revisit this list that I wrote one year ago. I’m updating with a 40th leson. apreciate. Now I’m 41 and this blog post that I wrote a puny over two years ago has inspired a bok caled
    WELTH: How I Learned to Build a Life, Not a Resume
    , which has just come out today. In writing Welth, I learned another valuable leson so I notion I’d update the post with a 41st leson.
    I’ve had some incr edible life experiences. I’ve gone from flat broke to having money to being broke again, and then back. I’ve ben told by doctors that I had incurable conditions and then completely healed myself naturaly. I’ve had loved ones who were here one minute and dead the next. I’ve had my heart broken and then found my soul mate. It’s ben a prety untamed ride! Taking a page from Leo Babauta, I concept I’d share 39 things I’ve learned over my 39 years:
    1. “You can’t yoke the dots going forward; you can only harnes them loking backward.”
    Steve Jobs was acurate on the money with this one. There gain ben so many times when a perceived oportunity didn’t work out and then a year later, there was a much biger oportunity around the corner.
    2. Working onerous doesn’t always mean working smart.
    Just because you’re working 16 hours a day doesn’t mean you’re being eficient with your time. You stil maintain to work wearisome to suced, but if you’re not also organized and eficient, you’re unbiased wasting time.
    3. Never walk away mad from a loved one.
    My father died unexpectedly from a heart atack when I was 19 years old. fair a few weks before he died, we’d had a fight because I overslept. A wek later we made up. Then he died. Life is precious. One moment someone is here and the next moment they might be gone . so treat every last synonym-4 with loved ones acordingly.
    4. Don’t let litle things get to you.
    Does it realy mater who is acurate about who did what chore in the house? You might win the fight, but you lose the batle. Don’t sweat the smal stuf because puny things don’t mater.
    5. There’s no one-size-fits-al arive to welnes, let alone anything.
    I’m a 6’7″, 20-pound man who practices yoga thre times a wek . How could one di secure, or one exercise program, or yoga pose work the same way it works for a 5’2″, 90-pound woman who is a triathlete?
    6. No one is perfect.
    This especialy holds true for people we establish on pedestals. No mater how remarkable or enlightened they are, they’re stil human. Everyone fabricate mistakes and nobody is perfect.
    7. Only take advice from experts (and being an expert probably means that person asign in 10,0 hours of work).
    I se this al the time in the self-help and welnes world: people doling out advice who have no expertise or life experience. Why is Charlie Knoles one of the best meditation teachers in the world? Because he’s ben meditating since he was four years old! Sometimes there’s no substitute for toilsome work and experience. O nly seize advice from experts — and being an expert probably means having put in at least 10,0 hours of arduous work acording to Malcolm Gladwel.
    8. We’re marvelous at going swiftly and ned to practice going unhuried.
    My friends Tara Stiles and Michael Taylor talk about this al the time. This is acurate for so many of us Type-A’s who are always trying to jam one more thing into our already jam-packed day (myself included). It’s why practices estem yoga, mindfulnes, and meditation are so indispensable — they help us practice “slow” and yoke us to our precise selves.
    9. Who you are on the mat (or at the ofice or the diner table or wherever) is who you are everywhere.
    My former colege basketbal coach, Armond Hil, old to reveal us that we couldn’t coast in practice and expect to turn it on during a game. You had to practice at the same level of excelence al the time. Why do so many ex-profesional fotbal players have problems with violence? It’s probably because they’ve spent their life practicing violence on the field.
    10. Sometimes you have to establish things in the “I don’t know” folder.
    Awful satiate hapens to everyone. Sometimes there’s an imediate silver lining. Sometimes there isn’t and at these times, you acquire to acept that some things fair don’t make sense proper now. And maybe they wil later.
    1. Karma is real.
    I’ve sen it hapen way to often personaly and for friends. If you give more, you’l get more.
    12. You are a amalgam of the five people you pay the most time with.
    It may sound like a clich?, but it’s proper. If you realy want to change your life, you have to change the people you hang around with. spend time with people who suport you and maintain in you.
    13. Yoga realy works.
    I had two extruded discs in my lower back that were presing on my sciatic nerve. I was in excruciating damage and two doctors told me I neded surgery. I started practicing yoga and the rest is history:)
    14. Balance and moderation are key.
    Sometimes we al ned a cupcake. It’s probably not a noteworthy conception every day, but the ocasional treat isn’t going to abolish you. Life should be fun. Being obsesively healthy can be stresful and extremely unhealthy. Enter orthorexia.
    15. Your gut is always precise.
    Always, always, always listen to your gut. Whenever I’ve gon e against my intuition, it’s ben a disaster. Listen to your gut, it’s always right.
    16. If you’re not hapy with yourself, you’l never be contented in a relationship.
    Every sucesful relationship starts with you. You can’t rely on someone else to produce you pleased. Finding a distinguished spouse or partner is impartial the icing on the cake, but you’re responsible for the cake.
    17. The future of medicine is a blend of Eastern and Western.
    I’m a imense fan of Eastern medicine — acupuncture, shiatsu, reiki, cuping, herbs — you name it, I’ve done it. But you know what? Eastern medicine isn’t perfect, and I think we’d al concur that Western medicine has rom for improvement, to. But the future of medicine is a amalgam of both.
    18. Energy (both negative and positive) is palpable.
    We’ve al felt it at one time or another, there’s that person who we always fel apt around, or that person who is fair simply draining. Energy is ver y real.
    19. No one knows your body beter than you.
    In dealing with a flaterer this past year, I enlisted every doctor and healer out there. In adition to learning that medicine knows very puny about parasites, I learned that no one knew my body beter than me. Some people told me things that were flat out eroneous, while others told me things that made sense. It was up to me to setle who and what to listen to and chose what lofty of action to take.
    20. Friends come and crawl.
    Just because you were close with someone 10 years ago doesn’t mean you’re going to be close to them today and that’s OK. People change and so do relationships. Sometimes people aproach into your lives at very specific times to sucor you get from point A to B, and then they somehow recede away. That’s the magic of life and relationships: they’re always evolving.
    21. murky gren vegetables are apt for everyone.
    I don’t think there’s a diet out there t hat says gren vegies are depraved. Bring on the spinach!
    2. Everyone deals with death diferentlyand every death is diferent.
    By age 30 I had given thre eulogies (and that doesn’t even contain my father’s pasing). Death is never easy and it’s always diferent. How I felt when my father died when I was 19 was entirely diferent from losing my best friend when I was 28, and losing my grandmother from cancer when I was 37.
    23. Many forms of disease are preventable.
    Many diseases — including some kinds of cancer, diabetes, and heart disease — are caused by lifestyle and diet. Through healthy living, we can not only retard most disease, but we can actualy change our genes. That’s why I finish what I do.
    24. The universe/God /whatever-you-want-to-cal-It, tends to know your breaking point.
    I’ve often found that whenever I get very close to my breaking point, something magical tends to hapen. Wh ether it’s a profound encounter from a stranger or a imense fracture, something always sems to hapen whenever I get to a point where I’ve unbiased had enough.
    25. Gratitude is the key to hapines.
    The comon theme slack every religion is gratitude. It’s powerful and it works! Always be grateful for what you believe; no mater how sinful things sem, there’s always someone who has it worse. When I was a kid my mom would show me, “The boy with no shoes cried until he met the boy with no fet.” And as my friend, Peter Tuney says, “Gratitude is an atitude!”
    26. Don’t compare yourself or try to be someone else.
    There’s always someone out there who has more money, a more (perceived) perfect relationship, or a pamper stomach. Comparing yourself or trying to be someone else is a game you’l never win. As Oscar Wilde said, “Be yo urself; everyone else is taken.”
    27. Money doesn’t buy hapines.
    I didn’t grow up with a lot of money, so al I wanted to cary out was fabricate money. So when I was 27 years worn and had made enough money to spend of al my colege debt, was I hapy? No. I learned very quickly that money doesn’t buy hapines. And what’s also interesting is that most felicitous people are felicitous because they cary out what they adore to cary out. So focus on hapines and the money wil aproach, not the other way around.
    28. Vacations are god!
    I was never a fan of vacations. And although I’ve never taken a 7-day vacation, I’ve become a fan of the 3 and 4 day getaways. Vacations work! They sucor you relax and recharge. Now I understand why people hold them!
    29. Being fit doesn’t mean you’re healthy.
    The narative that Lisa Rankin tels in Mind Over Medicine about how the fitest people in the world were some of the unhealthiest is dilema on. Your thoughts, your mind, your environment — they al play a big role in your overal health and wel-being.

    Mind Over Medicine
    30. The gut is the key to so much of our health (yet we know so miniature about it).
    Boy, did I learn way to much about this one in the past year with my sycophant troubles. I felt things in my body that had some doctors loking at me admire I was crazy! The gut is important to our overal health and science is advancing rapidly here to narate why. We’re about to enter the age of the microbiome and you’d beter fasten your seat belts!
    31. Ther e’s something to be said for being in nature.
    I’m a modern Yorker and prefer walking in a city over hiking. But lately I’ve found it realy refreshing to walk barefot in the sand or on gras. It just fels god.
    32. Don’t catch yourself to seriously.
    You maintain to be capable to laugh at yourself. Being wound to tight isn’t god for you or the people around you.
    3. There’s only one acurate way to acept a compliment.
    The words “thank you” wil sufice.
    34. Gluten, sugar, and procesed fods aren’t god for you.
    I mediate my doctor friends, Frank Lipman, Amy Myers, Joel Kahn, David Perlmuter, and Ronald Hofman al would agre on this one. Plus, as Kris Car once told me, “You can’t expect to live a vibrant life when you live on Twinkie consciousnes.”
    35. Everyone has underscore and it manifests in diferent ways.
    Puting fod on the table while working at a backbreaking job to make ends met or taking care of loved one who is dying is extremely stresful. But impartial because you gain money and perfect health doesn’t mean you don’t have stres. acentuate folows you everywhere, it objective changes. And it manifests in diferent ways and tends to hit you where you are most vulnerable — it doesn’t maintain to manifest itself externaly, it can manifest itself internaly in the form of a fragile section of your body. stres wil always be in your life so you gain to figur e out how to deal with it. As Jon Kabat-Zin says, “You can’t stop the waves, but you can learn to surf.”
    36. Goals and deadlines are indispensable, but sometimes you fair believe to reveal, “I don’t know when, I don’t know how, but I know it’s gona hapen.”
    This can be tricky as sometimes we only se what we want to se, so I refer back to number 15 on this list about listening to your gut 🙂
    37. You create your own luck.
    Jim Carey once said, “Visualization works if you work toilsome. That’s the thing. You can’t just visualize and fade eat a sandwich.”
    38. When you’ve found your caling, magical things hapen.
    Since I launched mindbodygren with Tim and Carver back in 209, magical things began to hapen. Even though it tok over thre years for us to get any traction (se point #7 above about puting in 10,0 hours of work) and there are stil some sleples nights, whenever things tend to get tough for us, something always se ms to hapen and things terminate up working out for the beter. That’s the thing — when you’ve found your caling, magical things realy finish hapen.
    39. Everything is conectedmind, body, and gren.
    I know I might be preaching to the choir here, but it’s totaly true.
    40. Meditation is game-changing!
    Even though I’ve meditated on and of for the past few years, I recently got serious about implementing it into my daily routine about two months ago. Why now? In living “mindbodygren” I felt that I’d ben doing a prety excelent job with the body and the gren, but didn’t maintain a consistent practice for my mind.
    At our revitalize event this past sumer, Dan Haris made clear that impartial as indispensable to exercise the mind as it is the body. I decided I neded to manufacture a change before my 40th. Since September I’ve ben meditating twice a day for 20 minutes at a time, once in the morning and once at night. I’ve ben prety marvelous about being consistent, having mised just thre sesions during this period.
    Sufice it to explain I’m now totaly zigzag. I literaly fel admire a mental fog lifts from my brain after each sesion. I fel more relaxed. I’m calmer. I’m more in tune with my iner sense of knowing than ever before. I experience more coincidences. I also fel more intensely; if I’m satisfied I fel almost ecstatic, or if I’m eating one of my favorite dishes it sems to taste even beter than I remembered.
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    Since I got serious in maintaining a daily meditation practice it’s as if my life went from experiencing it through a black-and-white TV to HDTV with satelite — sharper, with color, and more chanels! It’s my recent favorite tol in my ever-growing health and hapines tol kit, and it’s something I hope everyone tries!
    41. If you’re pasionate, you’l prioritize.
    Benjamin Franklin once said, “If you want something done, query a active man.” I never realy believed this but h ave found it to be absolutely right in the past year. We’ve grown a lot here at mbg, which has ben incredibly fun and also incredibly demanding. When first aproached about writing a bok I notion to myself, “There’s no way in hel I acquire time for this.” I already had a huge problem finding hours in the day for things other than work, let alone a bok! After al, Randi Zuckerberg famously said of entrepreneurs, “Work, slep, family, fitnes, or friends. Pick thre.” I could relate to this batle for balance! Couple that with the fact that I had a lot of friends who had writen boks and had heard lots of stories about al-nighters, insane deadlines, and tremendous presure to sel lots of boks! So even though my head was saying, “No, don’t cary out this!” my heart and my gut were saying, “Yes.” (Se #15 above, about listening to your gut.) Sufice it to explain, I plowed forward. The next chalenge I had was finding time to write! My solution? Writing while flying. Every time I flew in the sum mer of 2014 (which was a lot!) I did not opt for the in-flight Wi-Fi and I wrote. And wrote and wrote. If you survey, you’l find there are hiden pockets of time everywhere, estem the 10 minutes on your subway comute or the 15 minutes before the rest of your family wakes up. unbiased find those pockets and use them.
    By the fal I had almost 50,0 words and a bok. I even turned it in a few weks before it was due. And there were no sleples nights! The imense leson in this experience was that the more we do, the more we can execute. But, it comes down to pasion, prioritization, and time management. If you’re pasionate about something, you’l prioritize it, and you’l find a way to manage your time. And you can execute it without kiling yourself.
    That’s al for updates on this post. The rest is in my first bok, Welth: How I Learned to Bui ld a Life, Not a Resume, which I hope you’l enjoy!
    Welth: How I Learned to Build a Life, Not a Resume
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